Becoming an adult
Many people develop friendships at school or by meeting people with similar interests or hobbies.
A good friend:
- is kind, caring, helpful and loving
- shares things
- is friendly and happy
- is good at keeping secrets
- is reliable
- is there for you
- is trustworthy
- is a good listener
- is loyal
- can let you tell them anything and they won’t judge you
- listens, makes you laugh and makes you feel wanted.
Watch this short video that explains what a good friend is and isn't from Norfolk Safeguarding Board.
Finding new friends
You can meet new friends by joining a new club, starting a new hobby, or taking a new class.
A good friend brings happiness, joy, and trust, but a bad friend can make you sad, lonely, or unwell.
You can also find relationship support for SEND young people by visiting:
Growing up, some people will become attracted to other people. Sometimes the people they are attracted to will be the same sex as themselves and sometimes they will be a different sex. Some people may be attracted to a mix of or all sexes or genders, and some people may experience no attraction at all.
There are also some young people who are confused about their sexual identity. You could be asexual, where you're not interested in sex at all, or transgender, where you feel you identify as the opposite gender.
- Gender - a person’s identities, understanding, and experience of themselves and roles in society. It’s their inner sense about who they truly are and how they want to interact with the world.
- Sex - a person’s biological sex at birth, to do with which reproductive organs they have.
- Lesbian - women who like women.
- Gay - men who like men.
- Bisexual - people who like men and women.
- Transgender - people whose gender identity differs from the sex they were assigned at birth.
- Cisgender - those whose gender identity matches that assigned at birth.
- Queer - a term covering all other sexualities and gender identities.
- Asexual – people who have no sexual attraction or romantic attraction to another person.
- Agender – people who identify as having no gender or being without any gender identity.
- Gender dysphoria - the feeling of confusion or frustration a person experiences when they feel conflict between their gender and the sex they were assigned at birth
- Gender fluid - when a person moves between gender identities without ascribing to a specific one
- Genderqueer - when a person’s gender identity does not meet the typical gender variations.
- Pansexual - is when there is a sexual, romantic, or emotional attraction towards people regardless of their sex or gender identity.
- Nonbinary - when a person does not ascribe to the traditional gender binary of male or female.
- NHS for gender identity support or mental health support for LGBTQ people
- The Be You Project
- Ambitious about autism
- Kent Youth Health - gender identity
- Young Stonewall
- Being gay is ok
- Deaf Rainbow UK
- 44 self-esteem resources for non binary teens
- a guide to using pronouns
- a guide to LGBTQ acronyms
- your local youth hub.
Did you know that there are many famous LGBTQ+ disabled people to aspire to? Find out more about these influential people by visiting:
Be an ally
An ally is someone who supports and proactively tries to make the world a better place. This includes supporting equal civil rights, gender equality and LGBTQ+ social movements and challenges homophobia, biphobia, and transphobia.
Every relationship is different, but it should always be based on honesty and trust. Everybody should be able to make their own decisions and no one should be forced to do anything they don't want to. This is known as giving or not giving consent and this can change. This means consent needs to be consistent and not just given one time. Relationships do not have to be sexual, but if you do want sex, it should be when you're both ready.
To find relationship support you can visit:
- your sexual health and contraception options page
- school age parents page - for young people who are pregnant or have a child, young fathers (or fathers-to-be), parents and families of young people who are pregnant
- Mencap's website - national charity supporting you and your family with sex and relationship advice
- Mencap - easy read guide for understanding sexuality and relationships
- The Love Life - an easy read guide to sex and body parts
- BeFree Positive Relationships website
- Scope's website - sex and disability advice.
Bullying is behaviour that hurts someone else. It includes name calling, hitting, pushing, spreading rumours, threatening or making someone feel sad about themselves.
It can happen anywhere - at school, at home or online. It can affect you both physically and mentally.
It is very important that you are in a safe relationship and no one is trying to harm you or make you do things you don't want to do. This can include being touched without your consent, being asked to perform sexual acts on someone or someone taking inappropriate pictures of you.
You can get support from Domestic abuse in Kent and Medway.
Or, you can download one of the below reports, to find out more about domestic abuse in the UK:
Smoking is one of the biggest causes of death and illness in the UK. It can increase your risk of developing more than 50 serious health conditions and can cause long term damage to your health.
- feel about your weight
- compare yourself to your friends or people you follow on social media
- how you feel that you are not shown on tv or film
- may feel sad about your body
- may feel misunderstood and get frustrated when people make assumptions about why you look a certain way
- think you are not attractive enough to someone else
- have maybe a different birthmark, or a scar or acne to others
- feel that your body does not match your gender.
It's important to remember that everyone is unique. If you are struggling, just remember to:
- be kind to yourself
- try to stop comparing yourself to images you see on social media
- follow positive body image influencers
- focus on the things you like about yourself
- talk to a friend or a family member
- talk to a trusted adult.
For more support visit:
Don't worry, it is normal to experience a variety of feelings as we grow older. This could depend on relationships, friendships, school, college or life in general. Emotions can be positive and negative and they're all valid.
For more support visit the NHS mental wellbeing information hub.