Relationships and identity support for young people

Being a teenager and becoming an adult is an exciting time. It is important you make close and personal relationships with others and be part of your local community.

To help you grow and become more independent from your family or carers, now is a good time to build friendships.


Many people develop friendships at school or by meeting people with similar interests. Although your friendship group may change over time, it's okay to have either some close friends, know lots of people or be part of a big social group.

Having good friends is important and it's okay if you feel lonely or find it difficult to get on with some people. To help you look out for at what a good friend is and what a good friend isn’t you can watch this short video created by Norfolk Safeguarding Board.

If you feel like you need some emotional support if you are feeling lonely you can visit the Moodspark website or find support through the Kooth website.

If you are looking to meet new friends, or want to learn a new skill or attend a local event with your friend you can. Support groups and services are in place to help increase your independence as you're going into adulthood.

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As you are growing up, it is normal to feel attracted to both boys and girls.

Some people realise they prefer people of the opposite sex, while others feel they prefer people of the same sex. Some people realise they are gay, lesbian or bisexual at an early age, while others may not know until later in life.

Some young people may also be confused about their sexual identity. You could be asexual, where you're not interested in sex at all, or transgender, where you feel you identify as the opposite gender.

LGBTQ is an acronym for lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender and queer or questioning. These terms are used to describe a person’s sexual orientation or gender identity.

To find your LGBTQ support you can visit:

Relationships and sex

Every relationship is different, but it should always be based on honesty and trust. Both you and your partner should have an equal choice in decision making and nobody should be asked to do anything they don't want to do. Relationships don't have to be sexual, but if you do want to have sex it should be when you both feel ready.

To find relationship support you can visit:

Relationships and the influence of alcohol and substances

Drinking alcohol or using substances could affect the way you behave and the decisions that you make, including sexual activity. You can speak to someone about how drugs and alcohol affect you:

Domestic abuse

It is very important that you are in a safe relationship and no one is trying to harm you or make you do things you don't want to do. This can include being touched without your consent, being asked to perform sexual acts on someone or someone taking inappropriate pictures of you.

You can get support from Domestic abuse in Kent and Medway.

Or, you can download one of the below reports, to find out more about domestic abuse in the UK: