Relationships and identity

Being a teenager and becoming an adult is an exciting time. It is important you make close and personal relationships with others and be part of your local community.

To help you grow and become more independent from your family or carers, now is a good time to build friendships.


Many people develop friendships at school or by meeting people with similar interests. Although your friendship group may change over time, it's okay to have either some close friends, know lots of people or be part of a big social group.

If you are looking to meet new friends, or want to learn a new skill or attend a local event with your friend you can. Support groups and services are in place to help increase your independence as you're going into adulthood.

Find local activities near you.

Relationships and sex

Every relationship is different, but it should always be based on honesty and trust. Both you and your partner should have an equal choice in decision making and nobody should be asked to do anything they don't want to do. Relationships don't have to be sexual, but if you do want to have sex it should be when you both feel ready.

To find relationship support you can visit:


As you are growing up, it is normal to feel attracted to both boys and girls.

Some people realise they prefer people of the opposite sex, while others feel they prefer people of the same sex. Some people realise they are gay, lesbian or bisexual at an early age, while others may not know until later in life.

Some young people may also be confused about their sexual identity. You could be asexual, where you're not interested in sex at all, or transgender, where you feel you identify as the opposite gender.

LGBTQ is an acronym for lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender and queer or questioning. These terms are used to describe a person’s sexual orientation or gender identity.

To find your LGBTQ support you can visit:

Domestic abuse

It is very important that you are in a safe relationship and no one is trying to harm you or make you do things you don't want to do. This can include being touched without your consent, being asked to perform sexual acts on someone or someone taking inappropriate pictures of you.

You can get support from:

Or, you can download one of the below reports, to find out more about domestic abuse in the UK: